How much is tooo much?

“Supreme Court of India has ruled that “Persistent demand for excessive sex causing injury can be ground for seeking divorce.”  

"Persistence in inordinate sexual demands or malpractices by either spouse can be cruelty if it injures the other spouse," said Justice Sathasivam, who wrote the judgment for the Bench. 

When I started reading this, for some vague reason I believed that this must have been a plea by any harassed wife. I am sure most of you would have thought alike. But what came as a very rude shock to me was that this was a plea from an aggrieved husband. You are reading it right, an aggrieved husband. (Wife asks for excessive sex and husband is aggrieved… What world are we living in?)

Not just an ordinary husband, but a Sardar. Now, why do I sense that your disbelief just turned into a smile. I guess the zillions of Sardar jokes you read on internet, SMS and Khushwant Singh’s books makes you feel that only a Sardar could have accomplished this feat.

The subject of our surprise/shock is Mr Gurbax Singh, who sought divorce on the grounds of cruelty due to persistent demands of sex from his wife. (I guess he is not Tiger woods after all)

I am not aware of many men who would feel tortured due to excessive sexual demand. I am sure one thought would have crossed many pious minds “why not me?” The other content souls reading this, might be feeling proud of their personal capabilities. But dear Gurbax, apparently does not seem to think alike with any of the above. He equated this with cruelty. (There may be some lady somewhere who would tell us that this has got nothing to do with his abilities)

Cruelty is an undefined term under Section 13 of the Hindu Marriage Act, which provides grounds for divorce. The one seeking divorce has to prove with evidence that a particular conduct of the other partner had caused him/her cruelty. 

Singh failed to prove this cruel behaviour of his wife and Supreme Court refused to grant him divorce. 

I am not sure how does one prove excessive sexual demand. This is not one of those evidences which can be easily produced to the court. Probably Gurbax should have resorted to the now very famous ‘sting’ operation. But then, this evidence may not be permissible in the court of law.

Now we come to the most important question. How does the Supreme court decide “How much is too much?” What is excessive to one may not be excessive to another one….